Domestic Violence Awareness Month

This October, we want to raise awareness about an important issue facing our society

As some of you may know, I am extremely passionate about ending the cycle of domestic violence within a generation. During my law school experience, I had the opportunity to work on a task force that addressed domestic and sexual violence. I believe that when women flourish, all of society also flourishes. Thus, the work that we do on ourselves – to unlearn a lifetime of toxicity – is so important and can unleash our potential.

During times of stress, as we are now experiencing, domestic violence is often on the rise. DV is centered around power and control and can take many forms, as indicated below.

Power and Control Wheel | Ocala Domestic Violence Center

The results of experiencing domestic violence can be physical, mental, and spiritual. This can include death, traumatic brain injuries, chronic pain, PTSD, and loss of faith.

Based on my review of cases, which often included the same couples, I identified factors that contribute to violent and volatile relationships, such as:

  • Age: a younger male and older female
  • Race: cultural norms passed intergenerationally
  • Employment Status: difficult financial periods
  • Drug Abuse: alcohol, meth, cocaine, nicotine, pills
  • Prior Trauma: child abuse, sexual abuse, trafficking

Relationships should positively add to our lives. They can and should provide us with opportunities to love and grow.

If you, or anyone you know, needs to leave a relationship – there are really great resources that can be found at thehotline.org.

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Renewal & the Phoenix

Makapu’u Tidepools

The Lord bless you
    and keep you;

the Lord make his face shine on you
    and be gracious to you;

the Lord turn his face towards you
    and give you peace.

Numbers 6: 24-26

God has a funny way of being with us at all times. Showing up in the smallest moments.

I haven’t been back to Phoenix, Arizona for over three years since I graduated from college. Phoenix is such an interesting name for a city.

One of my favorite movie scenes is the phoenix in Harry Potter. A phoenix is a mythological bird that cyclically regenerates or is otherwise born again. Associated with fire and the sun, a phoenix obtains new life by arising from the ashes of its predecessor. In the movie, the phoenix seems to have a bit of a temper tantrum that causes it to implode.

I somewhat always identified with the phoenix being born again. Selfdestructive behavior is when you do something that’s sure to cause self-harm, whether it’s emotional or physical. Some selfdestructive behavior is more obvious, such as: attempting suicide, binge eating, and compulsive activities like gambling, gaming, or shopping.

The cycle of destruction can be difficult to witness, and even more difficult to live. However, there is hope that remains in the promise of what is on its way. There is somehow assurance that we will be renewed.

It doesn’t take long to learn that this grace should not be taken for granted. Positive change comes from being able to recognize the negative patterns in our lives and addressing them.

Take some time to commit to a mindset of renewal.

Staying in God’s Peace

Peace is one of the greatest gifts in life

Edited by Patrick

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

Philippians 4:4-8

It’s been a pretty hectic few weeks moving out of the apartment I inhabited for three years during law school. There were a lot of emotions that rose to the surface because it really felt like the end of an era. I’m so blessed to have grown the last three years, to have experienced the miraculousness of God, and to have made such amazing memories.

Now, I am in a more peaceful and quiet environment that hopefully will prove to be very healing for me. During this crazy time, full with uncertainty, it is a blessing to be able to stay in connection with God. By staying in the peace that only He is capable of giving, we are able to be who we are intended to be.

I have personally been struggling with spiritual attacks and need to remind myself to stay rooted in the truth and focus on what really matters. At the end of the day, your ministry is your day-to-day life. With this perspective, we are able to look beyond the struggles of today and realize that we have consistently shown ourselves who we are. We don’t have to prove ourselves to others, to live in regret over the mistakes we made, or to question the worth of our contributions. God designed each of us perfectly and intends for us to live in peace and happiness.

How do you maintain peace?

Happy October ☠️

An au naturale face

It was a beautiful sunset last night with so many different types of clouds. I love the way that God can create canvas after canvas for all of us to enjoy. I sat out on my balcony feeling blessed for this life despite the stress of today.

October has arrived and the days are getting shorter. In this photo, I’m wearing a hand-me-down cashmere sweater and no makeup. I love taking a break from makeup once in a while and find it to be really refreshing. It’s nice to just be who God made me and to feel comfortable in the skin He gave me.

What cosmetic trends are you looking forward to this fall? For me, it’s a dark lip.

Adventuring in Waikiki

Without tourism, Waikiki can be enjoyed by locals

Patrick wears Locals with his daily outfit. He sold everything and wears the same thing so he doesn’t have to think about what he wears ( v techy).

Kamea Hadar

We parked at the Royal Hawaiian Center, which is currently offering three hours of parking with validation. A few of the stores and eateries are open but many remain closed during this time. This is a nice outdoor mall that ultimates extends into the shopping of broader Waikiki.

Island Vintage Coffee is still open, although not as busy as it usually is. They still have a host of items for sale there as well. I got a frozen matcha latte 🍵 with whipped cream.

Now Playing: Alex Globerson’s COVID-19

Ain’t got no home @17:00

Sunset Stroll at Waimānalo

Grateful for the beautiful sunsets here on Oahu

One of my favorite places to start at end my days is Waimānalo Beach. This is a broad sandy beach on the east side of Oahu.

This evening, there were people fishing, body boarding, and walking as the sun went down on another beautiful and blessed day here in Hawaii.

Over the last six months, there have been many ups and downs. Luckily, routine can provide us with the solace that we need from the stress and craziness of this oft overwhelming life.

God called the vault “sky.” And there was evening. And there was morning – the second day.

Genesis 1:8

God is the ultimate creator, the most talented artist, and the great refresher. Through feeling His presence, we are able to be renewed and restored. We are able to truly become the individuals that God created us to be.

In what ways do you experience God in your everyday life?

Orchids, Anthuriums & Heliconias

The floral market is heating up

Marchesa

I absolutely love this Marchesa look with orchids. I have seen wild orchids growing on the Big Island of Hawaii and loved visiting the Akatsuka Orchid Farm on the way to Volcanoes National Park. There, you can see beautiful varieties and learn about the growing process.

My grandma loved anthuriums. They are also abundant in the Hilo area. I sadly lost the photos from the summer I spent there, but hope I will find them one day.

Heliconia are bolder and can come in a greater variety. There are a few variety at Hoomaluhia Botanical Garden in Kaneohe.